Why is it that in every relationship one person is liked or loved more than the other? Even worse, why is it that you can be loved by someone whom you don’t love much, whilst you love someone who ALSO doesn’t love you much? (Stay with me now). In fact, the only reason why you’re in this unbalanced relationship is because the one you really love (or think you love) isn’t ready, isn’t interested or isn’t in your life yet.
Looking at things from a guy’s perspective, first comes the denial; that the person you love will eventually come around and love you in return but that almost never happens (that’s just as dumb as marrying someone who has a recurring bad habit and thinking you can change that in a couple of years before death do you part). Meanwhile, the one who truly loves you is losing a bit of her heart each aching day as you drift further and further towards the Bermuda Triangle of unrequited love. And when the one you were infatuated with tells you…wait for it…she’s in love with someone else, you know you shouldn’t be too surprised but you’re only human, right? Your heart is obliterated into a million pieces. Only two outcomes can prevail: Either you pull out of the other insatiable relationship or you carry on and let a poor girl suffer the rebound effect. You get a taste of your own medicine – trying to grow to love someone who loves you. In the end, nobody wants to be alone.
Nobody dreams to marry someone who sees them as their next best choice. Nobody wants to live a loveless life. There’s a type of love that everyone would want to have: that fairytale love, that romantic love, that spontaneous love, that kiss-me-in-the-morning love, that feed-me-when-I’m-ill love, that cuddle-up love, that go-to-church-in-the-same-Ankara love, that no-secrets love, that grow-old-and-wrinkly-together love (By now I’m sure you get the picture). It’s like a diamond in the rough; it’s hard to find but rest assured…it’s there somewhere waiting to be discovered by you 🙂
~ Inspired by Two Lovers (2008) Directed by James Gray
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As the saying goes, ‘It takes two to tango‘. Similarly in relationships each party needs to put in work to make it work. So if you were once head-over-heels for someone it’s quite possible that you left yourself vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Perfectly good eye-sight begins to fail as everyone else seems to notice inconsiderate behaviour on your partner’s part; everyone but you whose renewing rent on Cloud 9. However once the stupor has cleared from your eyes and you sink back into the harsh reality of your new relationship status (what’s that d word…not divorced…ah yes, ‘dumped’) you might just appreciate these signs Continue reading 
