EP 1 – Why some men cheat
Well, the answer is quite simple really – because they can. It’s almost like eating food just because it’s there staring right back at you. Hunger is not the issue; it’s the opportunity being presented that is impossible to resist. Imagine a single man who is in a relationship but thinks with the thing between his legs and not between his ears. If this same man suddenly gets catapulted into immense wealth and starts to have access to celebrity women, then it could only be a matter of time before he begins to wander while his unfortunate partner wonders why he’s out so late, off on too many ‘business trips’ or just not in the mood for bedroom aerobics. If he is in love he wouldn’t want to hurt his partner. In other words, it’s much easier to hurt someone you don’t care about.
Sometimes a man could feel justified to cheat if he suspects or knows he’s been cheated upon at present or in the past. Maybe he’s been lusting for a particular person (e.g. childhood/college friend) who just happened to give him the green light while he was in a new relationship.
A man’s upbringing could also play a major part in how he treats women; if his father showed little respect for women then that could rub off (though it should never be a valid excuse). Some have the ‘RAW’ philosophy that men have been given a (insert ‘P’ word here) and need to conquer as much (insert the other ‘P’ word here) as they can before they die. Sadly such men also believe they’ll never get caught (having one extra phone his partner doesn’t know about, saving the other woman’s name as a male contact, etc but none of these is full proof.
What about what men consider as cheating? That’s a factor in itself. If a man considers sex with another woman as cheating but thinks kissing another woman isn’t, then dare I say it – ‘Houston, we have a problem!’ Even a man spending time with another woman at the expense of his partner is cheating. Men with a conscience know this and usually feel a stroke of guilt.
Some men cheat because they’re not getting what they want from their current relationship but still want to eat their cake and have it. Greed? Most certainly Thoughtlessness? No question about it. Justified? hmmm. If a married man is starved of sex from his wife for a year what is he expected to do? Food for thought…
And you can check out Why some women cheat
Men who have the fear of God in them do not cheat. No matter what reason.
I agree, totally. Now imagine if the leaders of Nigeria had the fear of God in them. Thanks for the comment 🙂
EErrr I don’t agree, sure it sounds reassuring, but in reality, not the case.
That means they don’t have the fear of God in them, period.
Cheating is cheating. I made a commitment to God to love my wife forever… If I cheat, it’s on that commitment as well. Looked at that way cheating loses a bit of its luster.
Pun intended. 😉
Right on brother! And another thing, for those that cheat it all seems like harmless fun until they get caught.
Yes indeed, then it’s all “woe is me, I’m a sex addict, waaaahhhhh!” Somebody call the wambulance.
LOL! *Remembers Michael Douglas*
Personally I think all men have that thing in them that makes them want to cheat. They think about cheating all the time. The thought crosses their minds every once so often. Its the ones that can control it that end up not cheating. Forgive me if I’m wrong, I’m not a man but that is my opinion
Thanks for your comment. That thing in them that makes men want to cheat is in between their legs, as I pointed out. Let me just say what they probably think about all the time is sex, not so much cheating on their partner. Control is by the grace of God but also we have to bail out of certain situations before they get sticky.
Wow! I don’t know that I like your new look blog. 🙁 Where is the jolly picture of The Crazy Nigerian on the sides of your blog? I was relieved to at least receive a blog post alert in my inbox as I feared you may have given up blogging altogether!!! What’s going on? 🙂
Hey Yvette! I’ve been attending to personal stuff but all is well and I should be back on track (and so is my jolly picture, lol). In other news, my lil sister has finished Candy Crush Saga. Yes you read that correctly, she has finished it and waiting for the sequel. I have no words… 😮
GOOD GOD! Finished Candy Crush? NOOOOOOO! I’ve been playing Farm Heroes Saga. Far easier and much more satisfying. lol. 🙂 I’m glad to hear that the Crazy photo has not dissapeared in it’s entirety and am also delighted that you will be back on track soon. Now, give me the link to purchase a paper copy of your book becasue I am not totally broke at the moment.. but that could always change at any minute… like my husband just received a $650 fine for missing going into a roadside check in his bus. (there was a truck in the way and he didn’t see them in time and was also distracted by a passenger…) Boooo to that, I say… lol. But yes, I really do want to read your book. xo
Ouch, $650 fine is no laughing matter 😮 Shame about that.
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Good to have you back on the blog 😉
All men cheat. Keep that in mind so you don’t hurt yourself
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So I guess your philosophy is that there are two kinds of men: Those who cheat and those who waiting to cheat.
Men are polygamous creatures.They will always cheat when they get an opportunity and the funny thing is that when they do that they don’t feel any guilt at all!Guys checkout affordable drinking bottled water in Lagos.
True to a large extent. I’m glad this is coming from a guy… I love your blog btw…have visited a couple of times
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